"Four weeks from the start of the intervention"
From Mr Amanda and Gerhard Zelter (Bonn - Germany)
in relation to their 7 year old daughter
Dear Warwick
We wanted to write and thank you for a virtual revolution in our household.
Before your visit, and the subsequent implementation of your tailor-made
programme, we existed in a terrorist- occupied domain. The terrorist was our 7
year old daughter, Margaret.
The transition was immediate and dramatic and we are now living in a
harmonious, communicative and joyous home. We couldn't quite believe how complete the
transition was, almost from the first day. Margaret adopted the new 'regime'
with open arms, as if it was exactly what she had been waiting for. Now four
weeks later it has become part of our lives and we all welcome the boundaries
which, incidentally, we all feel very comfortable with and they are easily
adhered to.
It is now clear that, as parents, the way we respond, is responsible for our children's behaviour.
Sometimes it is difficult to find the way (and our parents were not
always good role models, so we have found ourselves trying to redefine the
pathway).
With our exceptionally bright child, who would challenge us at every
turn, we were not consistent and diligent enough to provide her with the
boundaries within which she could contain herself. She was out of control. What seemed acceptable boundaries for other parents and children to create good
behaviour, was not enough for Margaret. You gave us not only the method by which to
create firm and fair boundaries, but also a clearer insight into parenting: you
helped us to define what it was and what worked.
We also really appreciated your compassionate but honest personality, coupled
with your deep-felt integrity, intelligence and 'hands-on' approach. To have
you supporting us in the background gave us enormous courage and confidence,
as well as excellent advice from day-to-day. It was really the best thing
that we have done for our daughter, and us!
One aspect of the change in our daughter that you said might well follow from her not being able to manipulate us, which, to be frank, we did not really think would occur is also becoming noticeable. Margaret is now developing quality friendships and learning how to be a good
friend, rather than a controlling and dominating force of energy without any
thoughts for others. We suspect that this, until now, sorely missed skill will
continue to develop until she reaches her natural place.
Thank you once again and we wish you well with your mission. There are many
parents who would welcome your sound advice in their homes - I just wish that
they could all have the benefit of your services.
Kindest regards
Amanda and Gerhard Zelter
Behaviour Change Consultancy 24 Rochdale, Harold Road, London, SE19 3TF |
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